Week 56 – Stop for a moment

If you are like me, I believe you need to stop for a moment. Why? I can tell you why! I love to be involved with lots of things: I like to help the people around me, I like to run and walk with my dog, I like to play music in Church, I like to clean the house- yes I do like to clean! I like to be on the go all the time, and sometimes my energy level can easily drop dramatically. As a result, I can feel a little bit down.

Sometimes we need to stop everything we are doing and just relax. I confess that I get twitchy if I stop, but I am learning to slow things down, and focus on things that really matter to me. A few years ago, I started practising Mindfulness Meditation, using God’s word as the centre of my meditations. I can confess that I found it very difficult to stop for a moment, a very simple moment, and just breathe and appreciate everything around me. As I said, I am learning to slow things down, and I can tell you the importance of having a time of rest and doing nothing! Try this week to stop for 30 minutes a day- only 30 minutes- and do nothing. You may say “I do not have this time!” However, I tell you: find this time! Rest your body and mind, and you will see how good it is to have a moment to stop, a moment to do nothing.

Week 45 – Expectations

Recently, I can hear people saying: “don’t have high expectations about this or that, from him or her!”  We live in a world where we are more interested in what people think about us than what we think about ourselves. We build our ideology on top of an existing foundation given to us by society. What is right or wrong sometimes seems to be only a point of view, and we all have different views, don’t we?

We build our own expectations! No one else is responsible for what is growing in our minds regarding anything, and we are the only ones to be blamed if things happen in a different way than we expected. I wonder what leads us to build high expectations, especially regarding people. Is this because we want them to respond the same way we do or even better? Or this is the way we escape the reality of facts?! The only thing I know is that we all have expectations and we all need to learn to balance them. Everything that we can control, we can manage in the way we think is best. However, everything that is not under our control, we cannot manage! Therefore, we should not build our expectations on things that we cannot control. We cannot control people’s minds, and surely, we cannot control the natural activities around us. Living having high expectations of these can cause us huge damage emotionally and physically. The best thing is to focus on the things that we can manage and relax regarding things that belong to others. If you get to know more about yourself, you will learn to balance your expectations.