Week 57 – If it matters to you, it matters to God

How many times have you heard people saying things like this to you when you are facing a problem: ‘Don’t be like this,’ or ‘don’t feel like this,’ ‘look around you, you are always going to find someone living in a worse situation than you!’ True?! Probably this is true, however we cannot judge anyone’s suffering. We are all humans and we all have different ways that we face difficult moments in life. Sometimes we see people crying because they chipped their nails, and at the same time we see people losing a finger or any part of their body saying “thank God it was just a finger, and I am still alive!” How extremely different people’s perception and understanding of situations can be.

When I was studying counselling, I learned that everyone has different ways of seeing and feeling the difficult times that life brings us sometimes. And I also learned that no matter how small the problem of any person might appear to me, for them it can be a big issue and I have to respect their suffering. As someone who has spent many years experiencing God’s mercy and blessings in my life, I ask you, if we can learn to understand other people’s suffering and respect it, can you imagine how much more capable of this God is? If it matters to you, it matters to God, full stop. I don’t know how you are feeling right now, but whatever your situation is; remember that God cares for you and He is ready to listen to you. Try to acknowledge your feelings, emotions and thoughts; do not ignore them, but learn how to deal with them. I can guarantee that you will learn to refine the way you see your problems. Remember these words “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (Philippians 4:6).

Week 5 – Love what you have

How many times do we complain about not having what we want? Girls will often understand it better: perhaps you are about to go out, and out comes that famous phrase: “I don’t have anything to wear!” Well, this happens all the time, with a lot of people.

It is interesting to think about how the human brain acts when it wants to forget something, sometimes purposely, and sometimes just naturally. This mechanism can change our perception regarding what we have. Basically, we cannot remember all that is around us. So we tend to focus only on things that we don’t have. We look around us and only see the things we desire to have. We see our friends and family having those things we want, and instead of being happy for them, we develop inside us an irritated feeling that can be called frustration or jealousy. This happens when you don’t appreciate what you have. Where is your focus? What comes first in your head when you wake up every morning? I believe like many people, you wake up thinking about your day ahead, bills to pay, the job that you probably don’t like so much, kids to school, dinner to cook, house to clean and so on. And among all these responsibilities you forget to take a moment to appreciate what you have and be thankful for everything in your life. I invite you to change this perception. I invite you to shift your focus by just making a list of all you have, remembering each achievement and considering how you managed to have each thing. You will discover that you have a lot, and you will learn to love what you have.