How many times have you heard people saying things like this to you when you are facing a problem: ‘Don’t be like this,’ or ‘don’t feel like this,’ ‘look around you, you are always going to find someone living in a worse situation than you!’ True?! Probably this is true, however we cannot judge anyone’s suffering. We are all humans and we all have different ways that we face difficult moments in life. Sometimes we see people crying because they chipped their nails, and at the same time we see people losing a finger or any part of their body saying “thank God it was just a finger, and I am still alive!” How extremely different people’s perception and understanding of situations can be.
When I was studying counselling, I learned that everyone has different ways of seeing and feeling the difficult times that life brings us sometimes. And I also learned that no matter how small the problem of any person might appear to me, for them it can be a big issue and I have to respect their suffering. As someone who has spent many years experiencing God’s mercy and blessings in my life, I ask you, if we can learn to understand other people’s suffering and respect it, can you imagine how much more capable of this God is? If it matters to you, it matters to God, full stop. I don’t know how you are feeling right now, but whatever your situation is; remember that God cares for you and He is ready to listen to you. Try to acknowledge your feelings, emotions and thoughts; do not ignore them, but learn how to deal with them. I can guarantee that you will learn to refine the way you see your problems. Remember these words “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (Philippians 4:6).