Recently, I can hear people saying: “don’t have high expectations about this or that, from him or her!” We live in a world where we are more interested in what people think about us than what we think about ourselves. We build our ideology on top of an existing foundation given to us by society. What is right or wrong sometimes seems to be only a point of view, and we all have different views, don’t we?
We build our own expectations! No one else is responsible for what is growing in our minds regarding anything, and we are the only ones to be blamed if things happen in a different way than we expected. I wonder what leads us to build high expectations, especially regarding people. Is this because we want them to respond the same way we do or even better? Or this is the way we escape the reality of facts?! The only thing I know is that we all have expectations and we all need to learn to balance them. Everything that we can control, we can manage in the way we think is best. However, everything that is not under our control, we cannot manage! Therefore, we should not build our expectations on things that we cannot control. We cannot control people’s minds, and surely, we cannot control the natural activities around us. Living having high expectations of these can cause us huge damage emotionally and physically. The best thing is to focus on the things that we can manage and relax regarding things that belong to others. If you get to know more about yourself, you will learn to balance your expectations.